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Detachment
* In life we get attracted and become attached to a particular object, person, relationship or situation.
Attachment seems to be the normal state of our living experience. We seek it without a second thought.
Is attachment a desirable state?
When a person develops a strong attachment, he is likely to become sorrowful when the attachment is broken or diminished. His emotional and mental state suffers. The broken hearted, the vindictive behavior, the hatred, the jealousy and sometimes suicides are the result of broken attachments.
It is a risky business to make the happiness of others our total happiness; to experience the difficulties of others as our difficulties. We should not build our life to such an extent around someone else’s life or any object so that when anything goes wrong we cannot function or we fall apart.
It is healthier, stronger and much more in wisdom to love everything and everybody, play our roles and perform our duties to the maximum with everybody and still remain detached.
We will be able to provide more help to others when we ourselves are strong from within.
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Manage Your Mind
1. Be in the present:
If you take care of the present, if what you do today is good, then you will just move toward your ultimate realization. That is the purpose. Other things, worries, this that, “What will happen?”, “Where do I live?”, “What do I eat?”, “Who am I with?”, all these things are not so important.
2. Keep correct knowledge only in the mind:
Correct knowledge will calm the thought waves down. This correct knowledge, that all will merge as one, will keep you peaceful. Incorrect knowledge such as, “I want to go be with my friends on the beach in Florida.”, or “Maybe I should go to Hawaii.”, all of this is incorrect knowledge and will create a lot of waves in the mind. Thoughts like, “What is the difference of Hawaii or Florida?”, “What’s the difference between this friend or that friend?”, will create a lot of waves in your mind and you won’t go anywhere.
3. Do self study and listen to scriptures:
Correct knowledge is not that easy. That is why you have to study and listen to the scriptures so that it is imprinted in the mind that such thoughts actually are good and are possible. Nourish yourself with it and you will be fine.
4. Practice of non-attachment.
This is the practice of non identification with the thoughts waves, which means not being distracted.
5. Manage your mind. Concentrate.
Don’t let it loose.The mind is very fast. Every thought is a lot of energy and very, very fast. So abhyasa, constant practice of restraining of the thought waves is needed. Then you don’t have much stuff floating around. What if and what if and I’m afraid of this and I fantasize about that, etc. You have too much energy in your mind, junk, garbage, erroneous understanding! Focus. Learn how to transform all this material that you think is free. It’s not free, it’s harmful material. The energy in your mind that is not used or channeled properly is energy that pulls you down. That is why you cannot go into the concentration and meditation state. So you need to create space by reducing the erroneous understanding, the memory, the sleep, and the verbal delusion and by increasing the correct understanding. Then you have a chance to clear your mind.
6. Use up the energy of the mind through Karma Yoga.
If you can’t meditate, then do Karma Yoga with the tremendous energy that you have. Usually we say we don’t have time to do it but it’s just that the mind is so used to being in the dull state and it enjoys the jumping state. The wrong habit is the mind doesn’t enjoy the concentrated state, specially it doesn’t like something selfless and detached. That is why focusing on Karma Yoga (selfless work) is very helpful to calm the mind down.
by Swami Sitaramananda
